What is peace to you ?

Peace is considered something important these days, and rightly so. In a world that constantly demands, drains, and distracts us, peace has become a luxury, a need, a silent wish whispered in the middle of chaos.

But what is peace, really?

It’s not just silence. It’s not just the absence of noise.

Peace means different things to different souls.

For some, it’s sipping coffee while flipping through a newspaper, watching the birds go about their little morning rituals. For others, it’s sitting still and observing people move, live, exist. Some feel it through music, lyrics that wrap around their hearts and say, “I understand.” Some find it in a hug, some in prayer, some in letting go.

We often ask, why do we feel relieved when good things happen?

I’ve always wondered why do we feel calm and peaceful when something good happens to us? And why is it that when something bad happens, we can’t feel the same calm? Is there a deeper reason we respond this way?

Yes, Because good things bring us closer to peace. They quiet down the “what-ifs” in our mind. They remind us that joy is still possible. That life can still be kind. That maybe, just maybe, we don’t have to fight so hard all the time.

But when peace is missing… something feels off.

You can’t always describe it, but you feel it. Like you’re wearing a heavy coat on a summer day. Like something’s out of place, even if everything looks okay. That’s because peace isn’t always loud, it’s the background of your emotions. When it’s not there, your mind knows. Your heart knows.

A life without peace is like a messy room filled with people who don’t belong there. The room is yours, but they’re the ones who messed it up. And no matter how much you want peace, you can’t just sit there and hope it will arrive.

Peace doesn’t come just because you wish for it.

It’s like saying, “My room will clean itself if I think about it.”

No, it doesn’t work like that.

If someone is constantly messing up your space and your peace, you can’t just keep picking up after them. You need to guide them out. You need to remove the source of the mess.

Because even if you throw the trash out every single day, what’s the point if the person who brings it in still lives there?

Peace is like happiness.

If you let others be the reason for it, they’ll also become the reason for its absence.

Your peace must come from you.

Your happiness must come from you.

No matter how much stress others bring, kick them out of your mind, and that alone is enough to turn your heart from a desert into a garden again.

Throwing out trash..mental, emotional, even social, brings comfort. It brings calm. It clears the floor, the walls, the corners... and suddenly, the space becomes yours again. Brand new. Safe. Clean.

I remember once, I found myself on a ship that was draining me every single day. Slowly, silently.

And one day I just said, “No more.”

I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t let my mental health drown. I realised I don’t want to give away my glass ball of happiness to someone else, because no one else can hold it as carefully as I can.

Only I know how fragile it is.

Only I know how to protect it from breaking.

And now, after all those nights crying and questioning my future, here I am. Writing this.

That hurt?

Just another memory now.

A memory I no longer care about.

Because here’s what I’ve learned,

Your peace depends on how you handle it, not how others do.

Don’t give your glass happiness ball to someone else. You know it best. You guard it best.

Peace is your personal room. Don't let others decide how messy it should be.